Tantrums are normal for any child. It is their way of telling you that they are unhappy with something! In fact, children seem to have a knack for calculating tantrum moments, and they are always the most inopportune! They tend to occur more frequently in public places when you are with more people when you are late when you want to rest …
It is true that tantrums can be frustrating for any parent, but they are absolutely normal. They are also easier to wear than you might think. Children have tantrums when they are faced with circumstances that they do not know how to manage.
Most children begin the tantrum phase at around 15 months and intensify by 2 years. It is a normal part of the transition from parental attachment and dependence to more independent thinking and functioning. The tantrums usually diminish at 3 or 4 years, which will be when the child’s communication skills improve. Although, of course, the tantrums themselves continue throughout life if they do not know how to manage, even adults have tantrums!
Before we tell you the steps to end tantrums, let’s first talk about communication. Young children must be taught about communication, and although they do not know how to express themselves correctly through oral language, it is important that they can do it in another way; understanding your emotions.
5 steps to ending tantrums
To end tantrums, we are going to do two phases of 5 steps; first we will focus on 5 steps to avoid them, and then when they have already occurred, 5 steps to manage them.
To avoid tantrums
Remember that you cannot avoid them, they are a normal part of growth, but although they cannot be avoided 100%, it is possible to minimize them.
- Stick to a routine. Set times for meals and sleep. Children do best when they know what to expect.
- Communicate transitions. Children tend to be more accepting of change when they are warned in advance.
- Get enough sleep. Young children should sleep between 11 and 14 hours a day, including naps.
- Anticipate conflict. Know your child’s triggers and stay away from them.
- Understand their emotions. When your child begins to have emotional conflict, it will show in his behavior; anticipate that by understanding his body language.
It is also important that you focus on positive reinforcement. See when your child is behaving appropriately and reward him for it, so he learns what you expect. Another aspect that you should keep in mind is offering options. Always options! Give your child options, but you have to make sure they are acceptable to you.
The good mood turns bad when children are hungry, tired, or not meeting their general needs. Meet these needs so that success in good behavior is imminent.
To handle the tantrum
Children can be very happy in a moment and then have an epic tantrum. If you have to handle a tantrum, then follow these 5 steps to get it under control as soon as possible.
- Provide a distraction. Offer a different activity or change the setting (physically move to a different location).
- Talk to your son. Accept her feelings and help her find solutions to her problem.
- Offer body contact. Sometimes a child with a tantrum just needs a hug, a little love, or being corrected with all your love.
- A time out. The waiting time should not be a punishment or a negative consequence; it should be an opportunity to calm down and give you a safe space to feel protected and comforted.
- Do not give up! Even with a public tantrum, don’t be tempted to give in to your child’s irrational demands – this will only cause more tantrums!